For most people losing weight is a trying experience. Trying every diet that comes along, trying what each and every weight loss expert says you should do, trying to stay away from the “bad” foods, trying to exercise, trying to eat the ‘right” foods, trying to stick to the plans and goals you’ve set for yourself, trying again to lose the weight you regained after the last time you tried to lose it.
Yes, it’s about trying, trying, and trying some more. Many people who are "trying to lose weight" say they are doing so because they need to for health reasons, or they have to because their doctor told them so, or they should lose it because everyone tells them they should. Certainly there are times when your physician says your health, even your very life, is dependent on losing weight. When someone who is told this loses weight and keeps it off, it is because that person has had an internal shift of values and has decided their health is more important than their old relationship to food and exercise. They have stopped trying and started doing.
'Trying' is a word used to describe the period of time in which a person is experimenting with something to decide if they will commit and actually do what is necessary to behave in a new way. 'Commitment' is about doing something that is extremely important and for which the reasons underlying that importance can be clearly stated. Lasting change requires a commitment to action based on what you personally desire for your life, what you personally have determined to be of value. Commitment cannot be imposed as a 'should'.
In almost every situation the words should, have to, must, need to and got to are associated with trying, and are ultimately de-motivators, stopping lasting change from happening by immediately, or eventually, creating an inner rebelliousness that says, “No one can tell me what I have to do!” And, no one includes you saying these words in an attempt to get yourself to do something.
Rather, in order to stop trying to lose weight, and begin to do it for keeps, ask yourself what you value about changing your body and your health. What do you want, desire, prefer and/or value that will be a result of making a change in your relationship to food and to exercise?
Make a list of what is important to you and remind yourself daily of what you intend to do for your life and how come it is important to you to make the changes you have decided you want to make. Then you can stop having a trying time and start doing weight loss for keeps.
Dr. King, a licensed psychologist, relies on her profound belief in each person’s unique inner wisdom to guide the individualized discovery and growth process. She brings to her work a varied background which includes: A doctorate in Psychology and Adult Education from Arizona State University, health coaching certification from the Hudson Institute, certifications as an interactive imagery guide from the Academy for Guided Imagery and as a HeartMath® biofeedback practitioner, a bachelors degree in physical education, with over 25 years exerience in a general psychology practice and over 10 years as a performance specialist working with professional and amateur athletes.
In addition, Dr. King authored "A Trust Walk: Mindful Golf", and her articles have often appeared in The Arizona Republic (the Phoenix daily newspaper), The Grand Junction Free Press, and a variety of national magazines.
She is available to see patients in Grand Junction, Colorado at Healing Horizons Integrated Health Solutions (www.hhacumed.com [1]) and we look forward to developing her appearance on the Internet via Lumigrate's information at the website (Forums and Videos), as well as our YouTube channel, iTunes channel, and Facebook / social media outreach.
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Comments
It is a pleasure, Paula, to have you writing here at the Lumigrate forums -- it was two years ago we were discussing the topic of 'resistance' that I foresaw was going to be a critical piece to anyone finding the website which didn't have a name yet. (Remember when it was being submitted for trademarking and we joked that it was 'We-don't-have-a-name-a-Grate'?) Your response was to whiz into the Lumigrate recording studio at your scheduled time, dressed in Lumigrate colors, your hair and makeup done just as we see them in the video (beautifully) and you were 'on'. I have a sense that someone in the room that day's life changed for the better that day -- hopefully 'for keeps'.
For anyone who likes what Dr King has written here and wants to have a 'virtual session' at a fraction of the cost of a 1:1 session ($20 to download), you can find her with the others at the 'Video' tab at Lumigrate. The link, for your ease, is www.lumigrate.com/catalog/seminars [3]. Due to upcoming/incoming sponsorship funds, I am hoping we will be able to announce a reduction in the cost per download to be more in line with the price of renting a movie download now; keeping up with the time as the Internet industry changes is a huge challenge for us at Lumigrate.com but it's exciting to be part of it, and a pleasure to have you be on board.
Dr King was the first person I recorded on the eve of my 48th birthday in April of 2008, in my office at the Integrative Medicine Center of Western Colorado. I hope we'll be able to make THAT professional-level seminar presentation you provided available on Lumigrate very soon as well, as I think it would help a lot of providers in the English-speaking world that Lumigrate serves today. ~~ Mardy
Live and Learn. Learn and Live Better! is my motto. I'm Mardy Ross, and I founded Lumigrate in 2008 after a career as an occupational therapist with a background in health education and environmental research program administration. Today I function as the desk clerk for short questions people have, as well as 'concierge' services offered for those who want a thorough exploration of their health history and direction to resources likely to progress their health according to their goals. Contact Us comes to me, so please do if you have questions or comments. Lumigrate is "Lighting the Path to Health and Well-Being" for increasing numbers of people. Follow us on social networking sites such as: Twitter: http://twitter.com/lumigrate [4] and Facebook. (There is my personal page and several Lumigrate pages. For those interested in "groovy" local education and networking for those uniquely talented LumiGRATE experts located in my own back yard, "LumiGRATE Groove of the Grand Valley" is a Facebook page to join. (Many who have joined are beyond our area but like to see the Groovy information! We not only have FUN, we are learning about other providers we can be referring patients to and 'wearing a groove' to each other's doors -- or websites/home offices!) By covering some of the things we do, including case examples, it reinforces the concepts at Lumigrate.com as well as making YOU feel that you're part of a community. Which you ARE at Lumigrate!